Wednesday, January 21, 2015

A Field for Daisy: Dressing Modestly: Where do we draw the line?

A Field for Daisy: Dressing Modestly: Where do we draw the line?: Today I read two different posts about dressing modestly; one writer explained why she chose not to wear leggings or Yoga pants anymore , w...

Dressing Modestly: Where do we draw the line?

Today I read two different posts about dressing modestly; one writer explained why she chose not to wear leggings or Yoga pants anymore, which spawned this reaction that ridiculed the notion. Here's what I have to say -

Before picking your clothes, question what you hope to accomplish with your clothes.
Do you want to look professional? You'd choose clothes accordingly, like a pant suit. Or a skirt and blouse. Do you want to feel comfortable? You might choose jeans and a t-shirt. Or leggings. Or Yoga pants. Want to exercise? You might wear Yoga pants. Or biker shorts.  Do you want to look attractive to others? Some women might wear Yoga pants, too. Or a deep V-neck blouse. Or "Juicy" pants.

Lately, Yoga pants has drawn the most attention in public debate. But Yoga pants, like anything in this world, can be abused. Does that make all Yoga-pant wearers evil women who are trying to steal attention away from your man? Nope. And some of you reading this will proudly admit that you are indeed trying to appear attractive, whether it be with Yoga pants, the low-cut dress, or what have you. I'll address that later. 

What about those of you ladies who want to be modest but are uncertain about Yoga pants or leggings? For those of you who wish to appear modest, then start by questioning your motives. Are you wearing the pants for exercise or comfort? Then sheesh, by all means, do so. If you feel uncomfortable with unwanted attention, though, you will figure out what you need to do to adjust. God knows your heart.

You cannot control other people's reactions.
For those of you who are worried about unwittingly causing others to sin due to your style of dress, please remember that you cannot completely control what others think of you or your style of dress. Sometimes, you might be able to accurately predict how they will react, but that is not always the case. I imagine that several women who wear Yoga pants are wearing them out of comfort or necessity (exercise, for instance); they were probably shocked when they realized some people claimed they were being inappropriate. If you are such a woman and you find yourself worried that you might cause someone else to sin because those pants might be too tight, then please remember - you are not responsible for that. 

Would you wear a bag over your head in order to save some passing stranger from having sinful thoughts about your good looks? No, that's just silly. You cannot control another person's thoughts. Leave that to the other people.

There are more important things to worry about in the world.
Our time on Earth is precious and limited, as highlighted in several Bibl.e verses. I think that our time could be better spent on more important matters, such as uplifting the weak and helping others. Children are starving, first-time mothers are struggling, military families are suffering. These, among many, many other issues, would be a loving and useful investment of our time and attention.


You cannot control what other people do.
To those of you who are concerned with what others wear - We cannot dictate someone's sense of style, even if we feel that person is inappropriate. It is up to the Holy Spirit to convict people should God see fit, especially if they are indeed sinning.

Yes, we Christians are called to correct our brothers and sisters out of love. Does that necessarily mean you have to be the fashion police? No. But if you feel compelled to do so, at least have a conversation with the woman in question and find out her motives before you condemn her. That is if she does not shy away from the conversation; it could be fairly awkward. And quite frankly, it might not be your business either, unless your conversational partner allows you to make it so.

IMO, your time is better spent being the example - model how you think others should dress. Treat them kindly (i.e. don't nag people over trivial matters), and they will respect you. With respect people might emulate you; young ladies might wish to dress like you. On the other hand, if you are someone who critiques freely and unsolicited, then you will be avoided, as will your wardrobe choices.


Final thought -
Ever notice how there are a disproportionate number of clothing attacks geared toward women? Well, guess what - some men purposefully dress to impress the ladies. Here's a nice parody to even the playing field a bit. ;)

Thank you for reading.

Sunday, January 11, 2015

I'm Really Bad at Blogging

In case you haven't noticed, I have not been keeping up with this blog. I blame my hectic life and my writer's block - I wasn't quite sure what my blog would be about. Well, now I have more of an idea!

I'm just going to start blogging about life. My goal is to blog about once a week, including linking to my articles on The Educator's Room. Since part of that life includes teaching, though, I'll have to be very careful about what I post there in order to protect others' privacy.

In the meantime, here's a beautiful photo of my family. I love them dearly. :)

Saturday, April 6, 2013

Meet My Family

Fear the 'stache!
Brandon, Christian, Analiese (back), Elliana, and Daisy

This is the most recent picture of my beautiful family. Yes, we have normal pictures, but what fun are those? (FTR, the mustaches weren't photo-shopped; they were actual fake mustaches that we wore. They look so fake, however, that they do look painted on.)

Pursuing Justice

Life isn't fair.

Most of us have heard this since we were young, yet few of us allowed this dismal truth to sink in and settle. Our parents and teachers were trying to set us up for the many injustices we would witness or suffer, but as children, we could not accept it. We sought a world that is just and fair, where everyone was treated with respect and no one went unpunished for their transgressions.

Such a world does not exist on Earth.

The only place where true justice can be sought is in Heaven. In the meantime, we must traverse a terrain that is not always smooth and even; at times it can be outright rocky, nontraversable, and brutal. There are too many examples to count of life's heaping serving of unfairness.

  • A woman, minding her own business, is shoved to her death by a complete stranger who should not have been living amongst the rest of us unchecked or unsupervised.
  • A man shares his faith to people who want to hear it is jailed and faces death.
  • A man is falsely accused and must wait decades before a re-trial occurs that proves his innocence.
  • A woman finally leaves an abusive ex-partner for the sake of her children and is finally finding stability until the ex and his well-to-do mother throw money at a custody case and utilize DCS to terrorize her with false and unproven allegations. Despite her innocence and clean record (as opposed to his riddled record), she cannot win because she lacks the money to hire proper legal representation.
The last circumstance hits close to home. No, it is not my personal situation (and I thank God every day for not bringing this trial upon me), but it is close enough that I feel twinges of pain and anger. The other circumstances are just as devastating, as well.

But there is a rainbow at the end of this storm. If it weren't for my belief in a higher power (aka: God), I'd imagine that I'd be in a pit of depression with all this injustice swirling about. God brings hope, and He shines a light into this darkness. His promises keep me hanging on, for I know He always makes good on them and that justice will be served... when He is ready. I just have to be patient. The following verse helps me to remember -


Isaiah 30:18 
Yet the LORD longs to be gracious to you; he rises to show you compassion. For the LORD is a God of justice. Blessed are all who wait for him!

Indeed, our Lord is a God of justice. He despises the evil and corrupt dealings. For those of us who thirst for righteousness, we need only wait. I have already seen some of His action in the custody matter take place. One person who has sought to only harm the lady in question has dug himself so deeply into a hole that his mommy's money can't pull him out. There is also more that is about to be done in regards to this case, but it is not my story to tell. It will all come to light later.

As for the other victims, the poor woman and those poor men, not much more can be done for them. Those who have passed can not be restored to their families here on Earth, and the innocent man who was jailed cannot get his life back. But what happened to them can result in activism that can effect positive change by those of us who are moved by their plights. For while we are told to trust the Lord and wait on Him, we are also told -

Isaiah 1:17 
Learn to do right! Seek justice, encourage the oppressed. Defend the cause of the fatherless, plead the case of the widow.

When you can do something, DO it. When you see something wrong, speak against it. Fight for what is right. (Fight clean; don't fight dirty, mind you.) As long as you are within God's will, you will be blessed. And when you feel there is nothing you can do, you can. You can wait. And you can pray.

May God bless those of you suffering inequities.


Tuesday, February 5, 2013

Mad Myths about Teaching

Time for some ventin'! Up to this point, I have kept my posts humorous and light. Time for a lil' switch-up.

The general public judges teachers with a cracked eyeglass. (For those of you who do not, thank you. This obviously does not apply to you.) Misinformation and stigmas have accumulated and threaten to overtake all us in the profession. Media reports of teachers exercising poor judgment and abusing their power appear on a regular basis. People assume that all teachers are thinking about committing these atrocities, if they haven't already. Former students are forever marred by one (or more) bad experience(s). People assume that all teachers are treating other students the same as they have been treated.

On top of the few bad teachers giving all the good teachers bad names (<--- we've been shot through the heart, baby), misleading research is taken as gospel. For instance, one report (I'm not citing; this is a private blog, foo'!) indicated that the average pay of teachers is around 50k a year. (This makes me simultaneously laugh and cry.) When the media gets their talons into this data, it fails to disclose just how this figure was calculated. The result is that the general public thinks that every teacher makes around 50k. (Again, combo laugh/cry here.)

Another thorn in my side is when the public underestimates the amount of work we put in. People hear "summer vacation" and refuse to validate all the hard work most teachers endure.

Allow me to do what I do best, dear public, and educate you (or rather, re-educate you) about the teaching profession.

MYTH #1: All teachers are cruel, vindictive turds! That, and they probably failed at some other profession, so they had to fall on teaching as a backup.

Hahahaha... try again. Consider this: What comes quicker to mind? An incident of kindness, or an incident of cruelty? For most of us, it is easier to remember when someone has wronged us as opposed to when someone has loved us. If one bad teacher treated you like scum, that teacher leaves a lasting impression that is difficult to erase. Relationship experts (again, not citing! Feel free to look it up yourself, though) say that for every foul you commit, you must smooth it over with 3-5 acts of kindness. That can be a tough ratio to beat for good teachers to beat. Not to mention, no teacher can beat it if a student loses all faith in teachers and remains forever closed off from them.

Also, you should consider that some people have horrible experiences with teachers because they were horrible students! (Imagine that, holding somebody accountable... sheesh!) If you were acting the fool all the time, you were also bringing out the worst in your poor instructor. Be honest with yourself if you were (or still are) one of these students, the crusher of teachers' souls!

To be fair, there are some bad teachers. There are bad people in any given group. Is it fair to judge an entire population based on the actions of a few? Or should we exercise age-old wisdom and wait to draw conclusions until we actually get to know someone? Furthermore, we should judge teachers as individuals, not packs.

As for "those who can, do; those who can't, teach" CRAP, you should know better!!! Many people go into teaching because it is a calling! Teaching in and of itself is a craft. (Don't believe me? You try it.) Also, many SUCCESSFUL professionals leave their professions and take a drastic pay cut so they can find more fulfilling work as an educator. Because of their professional experience in other fields, they add an extra element to the teaching profession; they become experts in their fields and can make excellent teachers so long as they are trained properly. While some teachers do teach as a fallback plan, most teachers teach because that was their *first* choice.

MYTH #2 Why do teachers complain about their pay? They make 50k!!!!

To get a more accurate idea of how much teachers in your area make, you should research the average pay in your area! Most district sites publicize the pay scale of their educators. Also, you should note that areas that offer more pay may also have a higher cost of living. In California and NYC, teachers seem to get paid a LOT. Pit their pay up against the cost of living, though, and you will see that they do not take home as much as you think.

And yes, we all choose our profession. Therefore, we should stop bellyachin' about our dumb pay already and suck it up, buttercup! And most teachers would do just that, if their pay accurately affected their real duties. Please see the next section for more info...

MYTH #3 Teachers only work 10 months out of the year! And they get paid for 12!!! Burn 'em at the stake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Whoa, settle down there, Sally. Yes, most teachers only work IN THEIR CLASSROOMS 10 months out of the year. No teacher gets paid for those 2 months he/she does not spend in the classroom, though. We have the option of spreading our pay over 12 months rather than 10. Instead of getting paid the full amount in 10 months, we take less pay so we have something waiting for us during the summer.

Now, as for those 10 months that we're working, we are doing so much behind the scenes that is more difficult to quantify. If you only count a teacher's hours the same as the school day, you are grossly underestimating. Teachers, like students, have homework. They plan lessons, create materials, grade papers, and contact parents outside school hours. We cannot accomplish all this during our planning period. (Don't believe me! You try it!!!) Just because our wheels aren't rusting in the school parking lot does not mean that we aren't working somehow, somewhere. Yes, you will see some teachers staying at a school 'til midnight. These guys simply prefer to do their work on campus. Or they're avoiding someone at home. Or a combination of both. Either way, just because you can't see it, doesn't mean it isn't there.

When you look at the actual time that teachers spend working per week, which can easily reach 80 hours per week (consider club sponsors and duties for which there is no extra pay as well as insane amounts of paperwork), you can understand why teachers feel cheated with their pay.

Now, if teachers could focus their energies on doing what they do best, teaching, and could drop some of the extra nonsense, they would be more satisfied with their pay. Or, if you could pay them fairly for the work they do, they would complain less. Here is a sobering picture: One woman's father kept a tally of all the hours she worked, unbeknownst to her. He counted her hours spent at school and at home. She not only taught, but she performed duties and sponsored an extracurricular without pay. This extracurricular required her to travel and supervise students occasionally. Finally, he noted how long it took her to complete work at home. When he divided her yearly salary by the hours she truly spent working, she was only making 25 cents an hour. (Yes, some teachers work fewer hours. Her experience, sadly, is shared by most in her same district.)

Now do you get it?!?!?!?!?

MYTH #4 Stop yer complainin'!!! You get summers off, which is the only reason you took this job anyway!!!

Many a foolish college grad went into teaching so he/she could get the summers off. This person later joined the mass exodus of individuals who quit before year 3. This poor soul made the mistake of underestimating the intense pressure of teaching those other 10 months out of the year. Spend a semester with a class full of hormonal, angst-filled, smart-mouthed juvenile delinquents* and then tell me if those two summer months compensate for your lost sanity.

Again, most teachers join the fray for they feel that it is a calling. Many of us, myself included, did not even think about those nice summer vacations until we were well into our degree. (It was like a nice surprise, a light at the end of the tunnel.)

Moreover, there is more to those summers than meets the eye. Many of us, again, myself included, spend our summers preparing for the next year. (We don't always get to teach the same class over and over. And even if we do, we have to keep ourselves up-to-speed on things.) We are assigned mandatory professional development. Some of us teach summer school and/or conduct practices and camps during the summer months, as well.

BONUS MYTH: Teachers get snow days 'cause they're too lazy to work!

Well holy Christmas nuts, Gladys! I didn't realize I could control the weather, much less control the call to cancel schools!!! Why didn't you tell me I possessed this power sooner? I sure could have used a vacation last week when my third block decided to act like demon-possessed donkeys**!!!

*Ahem* In actuality, superintendents/directors of school, in conjunction with emergency personnel, make the call to cancel school. TEACHERS DON'T GET ANY SAY IN SNOW DAYS!!! But boy, we sure do enjoy 'em! You can't tell me you wouldn't enjoy getting a day off work, so doncha be hatin' on us...


-Conclusion-

This is my deal. I LOVE my job. I HATE the disrespect. I LOVE my students. I HATE my naysayers. (Rather, I hate their naysaying, not the naysayers themselves. I just wanted to achieve parallelism there.) I LOVE knowledge. I HATE ignorance. Because I hate it so much, I have sought to eradicate it with my spiel here. Thank you for reading to it. Remember to thank a teacher... or at least, keep yer nasty, unwarranted comments to yerself unless you want a fat lip. (JK. I want to keep my job. Come back in about 25 years when I can retire, though, and I'll gladly reward you with that promise!) ;)

* Please don't get offended at my juvenile delinquents comment; it was said in jest. Most of my students are fabulous individuals. Make no mistake, though, teenagers drive the best of us to madness. And some really are delinquents. Sometimes, though, these delinquents surprise me and make the best students. And that's one reason why I'm doing this, folks. I wish to bring hope, alongside knowledge, to our youth. It's available to anyone who wants it! Your children would want it more if you supported their teachers, rather than demoralized them.

** See note above. My students know I love 'em. I also gotta keep it real, though. They can drive me crazy, and someone's gotta tell 'em the truth...